Asserting what you want and don't want gives you what is and that you're being transparent. False belief that you have to shut down your feelings to not make others uncomfortable. Hell noo people, those feelings are in you because of some reason, speak your feelings up. Many times you will ask several times for something and don't get it but you still have to continue asking for it and don't give up. It helps you from keeping stuck and keep the energy flowing.
Noticing what is, without praise or blame brings light and energy back into a situation and allows for healing. Getting what you want is not essential to who you are, experiencing your feelings and expressing yourself are.
Expressing NO in the moment says nothing about how you will feel tomorrow, neither the kind of person you are or if you are selfish. You give an event meaning according to your beliefs and fears which are mostly conditioned of some reactions in your childhood event. To mark your boundaries you need to be assertive and have the ability to express your anger or resentment (that shows you respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself).
Noticing what is, without praise or blame brings light and energy back into a situation and allows for healing. Getting what you want is not essential to who you are, experiencing your feelings and expressing yourself are.
Expressing NO in the moment says nothing about how you will feel tomorrow, neither the kind of person you are or if you are selfish. You give an event meaning according to your beliefs and fears which are mostly conditioned of some reactions in your childhood event. To mark your boundaries you need to be assertive and have the ability to express your anger or resentment (that shows you respect yourself enough to stand up for yourself).
- Be aware of how you ask things you want.
- Constantly use I in sentences rather than we, or you should've because they shift the responsibility onto someone else.
- Stop taking other people's reaction personally