Distinguish blame from contribution
Blame is about judging, and looks backward
Contribution is about understanding, and looks forward
When blame is the goal, understanding is the casualty
Contribution is easier to raise, it encourages learning and change
3 misconceptions about contribution:
I should focus only on my contribution
Putting aside blame means putting aside my feelings
Exploring contribution means "blaming the victim"
Finding your fair share: Four Hard to spot contributions
Avoiding until now
Being Unapproachable
Intersections
Problematic Role Assumptions
Help them understand their contribution
Make your observations and reasoning explicit
Clarify what you would have them do differently
Blame is about judging, and looks backward
Contribution is about understanding, and looks forward
When blame is the goal, understanding is the casualty
Contribution is easier to raise, it encourages learning and change
3 misconceptions about contribution:
I should focus only on my contribution
Putting aside blame means putting aside my feelings
Exploring contribution means "blaming the victim"
Finding your fair share: Four Hard to spot contributions
Avoiding until now
Being Unapproachable
Intersections
Problematic Role Assumptions
Help them understand their contribution
Make your observations and reasoning explicit
Clarify what you would have them do differently